He would only say it when he is absolutely certain that he is in love, and his definition of love is that he has to prioritize the other person's happiness above his own.(Personally I think his definition is a little bit strict, but I suppose I can understand) He says that at the moment he's not concerned about whether we are in love, all he cares about is that we spend a lot of time together.

Rest assured - you still have some pretty major milestones left to navigate.“If you've been dating someone exclusively for several months and they mention future plans for living together and so forth, it's safe to assume that your partner truly wants to invest in the future of your relationship together,” Dr. Referring to your potential plans as “when” instead of “if” implies that you’re both confident about the future and can see each other in it.The next time your SO talks about future living arrangements or career opportunities, pay close attention to see if you might be a part of that.I may not even have thought of this as a problem if (hypothetically) we live together.But when I'm alone, I think about us often and focus on the big picture, and rather unfortunately, I realized that some crucial elements from this relationship are missing.Let's just hope that some day you can both laugh about his failed attempt at old-fashioned chivalry or your near-fatal choking accident.Whether you enjoy these two very important firsts on the same night, or weeks apart, they're both filling in a key part of the relationship equation - that little thing called chemistry.Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick!Some forums can only be seen by registered members.For instance, he hasn't said the L word yet (and I'm confused, because from time to time, I do get the vibe that he does love me from the way he looks at me and the way he takes cares of me). I asked him while we were on vacation around 3 month into our relationship if he loved me, he said he thought so.Then I asked why he hasn't said the L word yet, he said he isn't ready and that saying the L word is a huge deal for him.Look for these signs that you two are in it for the long haul!You and your partner are attached at the hip, and there’s nothing wrong with that!I’ve had friends who can’t seem to get to that happy medium with their partners, and it’s really not fun—for anyone.2.The first time your roles switch can be a game-changer, and the way you both react says a lot about your relationship.